Yes, two strangers may enter a foxhole,
but if the barrage is heavy,
they leave as siblings.
Why is this?
As mammals we evolved to cooperate,
and our cooperation evolved
to ensure our survival.
The more profound the peril
the greater the trauma bond.
But let us not confuse that bond,
or its empathy,
for fate, or compatibility, or destiny, or love.
Especially if the trauma we experienced
was at the hands of the narcissist
we’ve bonded to.
For such a thing
is but a quirk of evolutionary biology
and not an exoneration
of abusive behavior.
No,
not at all,
not even a little bit.
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