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  • Writer's pictureLama Jigme Gyatso

Energetic Polarities...

About a century

prior to the advent of Buddha

it is said that Lao Tzu

dictated the eight-one chapters

of the Tao Te Ching.

In it we read

of the philosophical polarity

between the patriarchy of yang,

the matriarchy of yin,

as well as of the need

to eschew the former

and adopt the latter.

As a progressive man

sweet, and well intentioned

but quite often naïve and ignorant

I strove to avoid my gender’s

propensity toward toxic masculinity

by overcompensating

and embracing an energetic yin polarity.

Seems legit?

Perhaps in theory

however in practice…

NOT so much!

One of my mentors

cast some light on the problem.

This was in the past,

dear one,

before the supremacy of Amazon dot com

and the death of shopping malls.

He instructed me

to invest three consecutive Saturdays

in an anthropological study.

On the first Saturday

I was to sit in a mall

with a yellow pad

and keep score

of every time

I observed a scowling woman

stalking two or three meters ahead of her man

while he pushed the stroller

and tended to the children.

This was a surprisingly easy task.

On the second Saturday

I was to return to the mall

with a fresh yellow pad

and this time note

every time I observed a man

presenting the trappings of toxic masculinity

while his woman’s body language

and facial expression

communicated utter disempowerment.

Sadly, this did not prove too difficult.

On the third Saturday

I was to return to the mall

and this time notice women

who seemed joyful, and energetic, and serine.

This demograph proved the most illusive

of the three.

But each time I did

I also observed the

peace, amusement, and vitality

of their men.

In subsequent years

I observed similar patterns

in same sex couples.

Have you seen the Tee shirt

that reads:

“Happy wife… happy life”?

In our interdependent universe

perhaps its corollary could read,

“Balanced man… happy woman.”

I shall explain.

About a thousand years

after the founder of Taoism

taught of philosophical polarity

sages began experimenting

with the subtleties

of polarity:

energetic and occult.

While the majority sought

physical longevity

and martial mastery

the goal of an extreme minority

was emotional and interrelational

peace, and joy, and fulfillment,

and sustainability.

They found that directly striving

to balance the subtleties

of one’s energies

was as ineffective, exhausting,

and unproductive

as trying to herd kitty cats.


to their considerable surprise

and great delight

they found a method

profoundly effective

and infinitely easier

in its execution.

PHYSICALLY it involved:

daily physical exercise,

and consuming an exclusively

whole food, vegan diet.

SEXUALLY it involved

both partners refraining from

both ejaculation as well as orgasm.

And MENTALLY it consisted

of regularly performing

four-point, body scan, contemplations;

as well as passive meditation:

aware and acquiescent.

Every time these physical,

sexual, and mental practices

were performed on a twice daily basis

energetic, and emotional,

and sexual balance was achieved:

effortlessly, and automatically,

and consistently, and blissfully.

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with a simple

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