Contrary to popular belief
boundaries do not separate us from others;
they separate us from that which is unsustainable.
If someone, who we consider a friend,
does something to us that we find harmful,
then it falls on us to tell them plainly
that what they did was unacceptable.
Do NOT give reasons,
do NOT go into story.
Their ONLY acceptable response
is apology, humility, and contrition.
If after setting a boundary
they violate it;
then, quite simply,
they are not your friend.
And for the sake of sustainability,
you must remove yourself from their presence.
Like Anakin Skywalker forsaking sand.
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I've never been good at creating and keeping boundaries. I'm finally starting to hold firm against situations that are unsustainable, like having my adult nephew live with me if he becomes homeless. I have such guilt about it. I hope his mother can take care of it, but she has been unsuccessful to date. He is a paranoid schizophrenic. Tough to deal with.