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Boundaries are Crucial - 12nov21

Contrary to popular belief

boundaries do not separate us from others;

they separate us from that which is unsustainable.

If someone, who we consider a friend,

does something to us that we find harmful,

then it falls on us to tell them plainly

that what they did was unacceptable.

Do NOT give reasons,

do NOT go into story.

Their ONLY acceptable response

is apology, humility, and contrition.

If after setting a boundary

they violate it;

then, quite simply,

they are not your friend.

And for the sake of sustainability,

you must remove yourself from their presence.

Like Anakin Skywalker forsaking sand.

Let us conclude

with a simple

call to action

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Deborah Poarch
Deborah Poarch
Nov 12, 2021

I've never been good at creating and keeping boundaries. I'm finally starting to hold firm against situations that are unsustainable, like having my adult nephew live with me if he becomes homeless. I have such guilt about it. I hope his mother can take care of it, but she has been unsuccessful to date. He is a paranoid schizophrenic. Tough to deal with.

Lama Jigme Gyatso
Lama Jigme Gyatso
Nov 12, 2021
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Yes, that does sound difficult

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